Posts by concerned mama

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Things that make you go HMMMMM?

by ashitaka in

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friends

regarding the "my boyfriend is a jw" post, with all of the hmmmm's.

the meaning of hmmmmm?

and what makes you go hmmmmmmmm?.

concerned mama

Ozzie,
i know birdie well, and she is just a sweet, confused adolescent.

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early marriage

by concerned mama in

in a previous post, some of you talked about your current age and number of years married.

subtract and voila, many of you married young, by which i mean before 20 years of age.

congrats to all of you couples, married long and short!

In a previous post, some of you talked about your current age and number of years married. Subtract and voila, many of you married young, by which I mean before 20 years of age. Congrats to all of you couples, married long and short! By the way I have been married 21 years and I am 45.

Do you feel that your JW upbringing, if that is appropriate in your case, had a lot to do with the early marriages?

Presumably some of the JW kids will attend university, where most kids plan to marry no sooner than mid twenties. Do you think this will up their marriage age, or will there be so much sexual tension that they will marry early anyway and just be married students? I have heard that there are a few more JW kids going to college. The only JW I know well seems to think that 20 is a good age for a guy to marry at as long as he is "mature".??????????????????

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Watchtower Study NOV 12-18, 2001--Barf alert!!

by dungbeetle in

draw close to god.

5 "draw close to god," wrote the disciple james, "and he will draw close to you.

must be helped to cultivate a taste for the word of god.

concerned mama

OOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO...this makes me so frusterated. No wonder a teenager who is starting to question the J.W. way gets so confused. This is so manipulative and mind numbing. Is this really love? To give your child no choice in life?

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my daughter's boyfriend is JW!!!!!

by concerned mama in

my 9th grade daughter has an "in school" boyfriend who is jw.

"in school" because she is not allowed to date yet, only go out in groups, and he, of course, is not supposed to be attached to any girl, especially one who is not jw.

he is actually a very nice boy, but he is so confused.

concerned mama

hey ballistic,
not the same situation, but I would love to read about that one. I'll tell you, this romance has opened my eyes to a religious group i had pretty well ignored in the past. I can't believe what I have learned. The mind control i read about is frightening, then to actually see so much of it in a young man...there are times when bits come out that give me the shivers. Much as he denys it, his mind works so differently.

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my daughter's boyfriend is JW!!!!!

by concerned mama in

my 9th grade daughter has an "in school" boyfriend who is jw.

"in school" because she is not allowed to date yet, only go out in groups, and he, of course, is not supposed to be attached to any girl, especially one who is not jw.

he is actually a very nice boy, but he is so confused.

concerned mama

Thank you, Joelbear. I really appreciate your feedback. I know this boy's parents love him, but they show it in the strangest ways. I guess it makes sense to them because the most important thing to them is that he is JW, not his marks in school (a brilliant kid who does not have to do his homework) or emotional health. He is really a very sweet, nice kid who truly cares about my daughter, young as they are. It is so hard not to critisize, so I just try to get him to THINK about things. He only sees the surface of why the two lifestyles are different, and not the WHY behind the differences. He is so young, and it is all he has ever known, and just doesn't consciously question things. AT ALL! I asked him about blood, and he didn't know that he could state that he wanted blood in order to live even though he is a minor. I hope i put a question in his mind anyway.
He has been asking me what to get her for Christmas. He has no concept of gift exchange, as he gets things from his parents, but has never given to anyone other than my daughter. He has no sense of the joy of giving, and how to choose something for someone...the joy in finding the right thing and watching the light in their eyes.
I wonder sometimes if my daughter is a beacon to him, out of a life he is confused and vaguely unhappy about. Maybe that is why he hangs on so tight.

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my daughter's boyfriend is JW!!!!!

by concerned mama in

my 9th grade daughter has an "in school" boyfriend who is jw.

"in school" because she is not allowed to date yet, only go out in groups, and he, of course, is not supposed to be attached to any girl, especially one who is not jw.

he is actually a very nice boy, but he is so confused.

concerned mama

On the weeekend, her boyfriend told me that the elders talked to him about my daughter. He told them that they do not date or do "stuff". I asked what "stuff" was and he said sex. I should darn well hope not, at that age!!!!! He said he was NOT told not to see her anymore, but they only see each other at school anyway, so......

By the way, I can't believe how his Mom does everything for her family. It is like the 50's. This has to be the least self reliant kid in living skills. I don't think he could boil an egg or turn on a washer. And I thought I spoiled my family!!!!!!

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do not be fooled by the leaven of harry potter

by nytelecom1 in

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friends

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http://www.exposingsatanism.org/harrypotter.htm

concerned mama

Saw the movie on Saturday and it was wonderful and imaginative. Being a magician or witch is a wonderful fantasy, and the books and movie portray both good and evil, and definately promote good. Wonderful story and great movie. The books are still better than the movie.

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Harry Potter and JWs?

by CatholicGuy in

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friends

what's the jw line on harry potter?

i took my kiddies last night to see it.

i knew if i didn't take them on the first day of its release i'd be turned in as a deliquent parent!

concerned mama

Celia,
I saw the movie last night and it was great fun. I agree with your assessment exactly. Not quite as good as the books. Good triumphs over evil, and Harry makes wise choices in life. Sounds like a wonderful movie to me.

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my daughter's boyfriend is JW!!!!!

by concerned mama in

my 9th grade daughter has an "in school" boyfriend who is jw.

"in school" because she is not allowed to date yet, only go out in groups, and he, of course, is not supposed to be attached to any girl, especially one who is not jw.

he is actually a very nice boy, but he is so confused.

concerned mama

Both my daughter and her boyfriend regularly read each other's e mail as they havetold each other their passwords. Seems like a real lack of privacy thing, but the teen couples seem to do it pretty frequently. Anyway, I send my daughter links to sites like this one when I find a topic I feel is appropriate, such as the poppy, blood issue or shunning. All he has said to me about them is " I guess she has to know". He tells me he has never researched his religon on the internet before. I don't want to push it, as it isn't fair to him as he is trapped in his religon until he is older, and is quite aware he would lose his family and friends if he does leave. I feel sorry for him.

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my daughter's boyfriend is JW!!!!!

by concerned mama in

my 9th grade daughter has an "in school" boyfriend who is jw.

"in school" because she is not allowed to date yet, only go out in groups, and he, of course, is not supposed to be attached to any girl, especially one who is not jw.

he is actually a very nice boy, but he is so confused.

concerned mama

My 9th grade daughter has an "in school" boyfriend who is JW. "In school" because she is not allowed to date yet, only go out in groups, and he, of course, is not supposed to be attached to any girl, especially one who is not JW. He is actually a very nice boy, but he is so confused. His parents are very devout, but so far he refuses to be baptised. He kind of believes what he has been taught, but also sees all the other kids and people in the world and knows that the Watchtower and Awake talk unrealistically. He is also allowed to run pretty wild as long as he is with JW kids. Its kind of funny, but he talks to me like I am his Mom, about a lot about things, because he and his parents don't talk about emotional issues at all. He know I don't believe what he believes, but I am not obviously critical of JW. He talks about religion with me, but never my daughter. Anyway, I have educated my daughter about JW and she is horrified by their religion and culture, but she just adores this guy, who adores her back. They have been involved more than a year, which is unusual for kids of this age. They talk on the computer, as he is not allowed to phone...except when he can sneak a call when his parents are away. They see each other at school and school events. They are very mushy with each other, but have probably only had about 10 kisses all together, from the notes I find in the laundry.
Anyway, my feeling is if I am kind of low key about it all, then eventually the relationship will break up. They don't get into any mischief, much as he might want to. They are so young, and so different in background. I am trying to avoid them digging in their heels and having a "Romeo and Juliet" situation. His parents get freaked about it, but have to admit my daughter is a quiet, goody goody honour student, and they have no way to separate them without removing him from the school. They are convinced that he will want to marry her. At age 14, I'm not worried who she is going to marry.
Next year, they plan to move him to a different school, which is fine by me!
Tell me, is my low key approach the right one? I'm hoping that "this too shall pass".